Those whom you thought would get you through this, are about to ghost you. So, not only will you loose your spouse, you will loose family and friends. Not just their support through this experience, but they may completely ignore your entire existence on this planet.
I wish someone had warned me of this, but I had to learn it on my own. For a while, I thought I was just a complete asshole and nobody liked me. And, maybe that is somewhat true. But, no one will tell you that to your face. And, don’t expect an explanation from anyone as to why they are behaving so coldly to you.
I’ve decided to quit trying to have relationships with these people. It’s hard to admit that people don’t care. But, that my friends is the sad reality. People are much too selfish to give a good goddamn about you. But, who needs those kinds of people anyway?
Now, people may say vaguely that they care, and that they’re there for you should you need anything at all. But, ask yourself, do they call on holidays? Do they randomly reach out to see how your day was? The ones that do, are physically showing you they care. These are the relationships to invest in. Screw the others that don’t give you this attention. You are deserving of it.
And, do know that their will be additional support available to you. Just not from who you expect it from. Learn to appreciate and nurture these non-traditional relationships. They have helped get me through this. Remember, you are on your own now in this new world. Be brave.
Widows Life 