These holidays can be frustrating for those of us who are in mourning everyday. We remember our loss minute to minute, hour to hour. We don’t need special days set aside, such as anniversaries, to remind us that we are in mourning.
Though, we know it’s important to pay attention to holidays of mass casualties, such as World Wars, we don’t choose to only remember these losses on certain dates like those that have not been personally affected. Once you’ve suffered a significant loss, you understand how everyday is a remembrance day.
Also, if your loss is tied to a significant holiday, it can almost seem that people are tone-deaf to your mourning, and that they expect you to save your mourning for a specific day, or a day that doesn’t impact their celebrations. That’s not how grief works, and people should be more respectful and understanding of that.
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