You may be asking yourself the question above, whether you’re a social butterfly or not. After the death of our spouse, we obviously feel alone and abandoned. But we do not expect to feel this way from our friends and family. And, more times than not, this is exactly what happens. Their grief is strong too, though nowhere near what yours is. This will cause them to ignore you and not reach out to you when you need it the most. They are avoiding the pain that they’ll feel when you speak to them. They’ll be reminded of their immortality, your sadness. And they have the luxury of avoiding those feelings by not reaching out to you.
You, of course, deal with these feelings moment to moment of every day, and have hopefully developed coping skills to handle those feelings. They, perhaps were not forced to deal with these feelings like we were. They can avoid it for their own convenience. And, that my friends, is the sad truth. No one is going to pick you up, dust you off, and carry you through this burden.
Best to get comfortable being alone and consoling yourself. Now, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t seek therapy. This can be the most helpful tool, along with communication with other widows. There are plenty of groups out there. Don’t be afraid to join them. If you don’t like it, you can leave. You have the power, no one else.
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